Say No to Drain

Have you ever found yourself stretched too thin, saying yes to everything and everyone? In this powerful episode of Motivation Fuel, we explore the transformative power of strategic rejection and how saying "no" can actually be your path to reclaiming energy, purpose, and peace.

I share my personal journey of over-commitment and the pivotal moment when I finally said "no" to something that looked good on paper but didn't align with my values. That single decision became the catalyst for a new chapter in my life – one where boundaries became my superpower rather than my weakness.

Saying no isn't selfish; it's strategic. Through real-life examples and practical guidance, I break down exactly how rejection works as a tool for growth: preserving your precious energy, creating space for aligned opportunities, and building unshakable self-trust. You'll learn a simple three-step framework for releasing what drains you: identifying energy vampires, crafting compassionate responses, and recognizing that saying no doesn't close doors – it helps you choose the ones that open inward.

This week's challenge is refreshingly manageable: say no to just one thing that drains you. Whether it's a task, habit, mindset, or even a relationship, you're invited to protect your energy and track what opens up when you close the door on what depletes you. The most powerful realization? You're not just saying no – you're saying yes to yourself.

Ready to reclaim your time and energy? Visit wondraspencer.com to connect, share your experience, or explore resources like my book "Becoming a New You in 30 Days." Subscribe to the podcast, follow @inspireandrive on social media, and join a community that celebrates strategic boundary-setting as an act of self-respect and growth.

Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome to Motivation Fuel
• 7:01 Weekly Challenge: Say No
• 8:34 The Power of Strategic Rejection
• 11:48 Framework for Releasing Energy Drains
• 16:33 This Week's Challenge Recap
• 18:58 Book Promotion and Conclusion

Transcript

Wondra Spencer : 2:50

Welcome to the Motivation Fuel podcast, your weekly dose of inspiration, empowerment and real talk, whether you're tuning in from my YouTube channel or listening on your favorite podcast platform, I am genuinely grateful for your presence. Your decision to join this community fills me with joy and I am thrilled to have you here. I am your host, Wondra Spencer, the founder of Inspire and Drive LLC, and a firm believer in motivation from within. My podcast is designed to uplift anyone seeking strength, clarity and purpose. I want to strength, clarity and purpose. I want to dwell into the topics such as love, health, self-care, lifestyle, finances, personal growth and spirituality. Alongside incredible listeners like you, I have stories to share and insights that help you rise, reset and refocus, both professionally and personally. So grab your cup of coffee, your favorite drink, take a deep breath and let's fuel your drive from inside out.

Wondra Spencer : 4:09

The Motivational Fuel podcast episode. Say no to what drains you. Welcome to the Motivational Fuel podcast, where we want to empower you from the inside and out you can tune in on YouTube, spotify or anywhere around the world, and I am truly grateful you are here. So, with this week's episode, we're going to take the weekly drive challenge. This week challenge is simply yet but powerful. Say no to one thing that drains your energy. This can be something grateful for you, because you are protecting your energy. You're going to honor on your growth, and I want to let that sink in for a bit.

Wondra Spencer : 5:08

Now. Here's a question to reflect on when was the last time you said no and you felt empowered by it, not guilty, not ashamed, but clear, confident and free? There was a reason and some seasons in my life when I said yes to everything Every opportunity, every request, every role. I thought it meant that I was showing up fully, but what I was really doing was abandon myself bit by bit. One moment changed everything. I was asked to lead a project that looked good on paper, but it didn't align with any of my values. I was hesitant and I felt the pressure to say yes, but something inside of me said this isn't for me. So I said no, and that's no. It was a beginning of a new chapter.

Wondra Spencer : 6:34

At first, I, my clients, would the people you're over committing to, and will they do the same for you? Think about that for a minute. It's a hard question, but it can hit you hard when you're over committing to others. And think about it. Will they do the same for you. So my one client that I work with was constantly saying yes, taking overtime, shifts, filling family obligations, volunteering in various roles volunteering in various roles. So this individual was burnt out and barely can recognize themselves. So, through my coaching, I showed the individuals how to pause, evaluate and say no with grace. Today these individuals, they're thriving with boundaries that honor their growth.

Wondra Spencer : 7:36

Saying no isn't selfish, it's strategic. It's how you and how we reclaim our time, our energy and our purpose. So let's break this down for a second. Saying no isn't just about turning something down. It's about turning toward yourself, hear how this works and, like you, can unlock it, preserve energies. You can stop leaking energy into things that don't serve you and leaving more for what truly matters, creating that space that aligns with your opportunities. When you're clear out and you know what's misaligned, you can make room for what is meant for to you, to the people around you, to your projects and to your peace. You can build self-trust and boundaries. Every time you honor your limits, you reinforce your own voice. You become someone you can count on.

Wondra Spencer : 8:49

Now, if you're feeling stretched out, thin or stuck in an obligation, here's some simple framework to help you release what's draining you. Step one identify what's draining you. Notice the tasks, the relationships or commitments that leave you depleted. Step two they leave you depleted. Step two not abandoning anything. You're just doing the alignment for yourself. Final thought when you say no, you will not close any doors. Think about this. You're not closing any doors. You're choosing the ones that open inward for you doors. You're choosing the ones that open inward for you. You can commit more time to yourself. No-transcript. Now it's your turn.

Wondra Spencer : 10:07

This week, yes, this week, I'm going to challenge you to choose one thing, to say no to just one. It doesn't have to be dramatic, it just has to be intentional. Here are some things that can spark your thinking, your thinking. It can be a draining task that adds value to your goals, a habit that no longer serves your growth or peace, a mindset rooted in fear, compassion this is not compassion for you anymore. You need something that's compassion. Say no with purpose, not out of avoidance, but out of alignment. Then I want you to track it. You can track it on your journal. You can even record a voice note in your cell phone. It's their different apps. This is just raw and filtered and it's just for you and only will be seen by you. Unless you want to share with others. Notice what opens up. When you close the door on what drains you, you can reclaim your energy, your clarity and your power. So let's recap this week's challenge say no to one thing that drains you, whether it's a meeting, a habit, a mindset, even a relationship, even your kids yes, your kids. You're choosing to protect your energy and honor your growth.

Wondra Spencer : 11:49

I love to hear from you and what you're releasing. I have a survey on my website you can fill out. You can drop a comment. You can visit my website. You can send me a direct message. You can email me. I want to celebrate your new shift together. If you're ready to protect your energy and hone in on your growth, let's connect. You can visit wondrouspensercom.

Wondra Spencer : 12:23

I'll follow at inspire and drive on all platforms for weekly motivation. You're not just saying no, you're saying yes to yourself. Think about that. You're not saying no, you're just saying yes to yourself. And remember I craft heartfelt journals and enlightening books. That serves as tools for empowerment, encouraging others to discover their own strength, while also reflecting on ways to uplift themselves yourself. Until next time, keep driving forward.

Wondra Spencer : 13:05

You have this and I do want to share with you a fantastic book that I wrote myself. It is Becoming a New You in 30 Days. It is available on my website and all major platforms, and it's about empowering you to take charge of your growth. You can complete the different tasks in the book and you will be on your way to your personal transformation. This journey is a fundamental one. It's rewarding and it's just only 30 days that can get you excited. In my book, I do share 30 days. You have different goals there. You have a plan. I embrace change. You can practice mindfulness, stay active, you can learn something new, you can reflect and readjust ways to stay positive, commitment to consistency, and you can definitely reach out to me directly if you need some support from like an accountability partner. I can make sure that I help you on this new process.

Wondra Spencer : 14:29

So, with this podcast today, I do want to thank everyone from throughout the world. I am so grateful for each and every one of you, and you can send me an email and I'll make sure I send them out to you. If you want me to give you a shout out on the next podcast, I can make sure that I do that too. So, in conclusion, remember this you have this newfound strength, you can share your story. You can uplift your own spirit with yourself daily.

Wondra Spencer : 15:09

So the podcast today from the motivation from within brought to you by my team, the Inspiring Drive. If this podcast spoke to you today, I want you to subscribe to my YouTube channel, go to my Motivational Fuel podcast on different platforms, and you can also follow me on Facebook, instagram, tiktok, twitter, which is known as X LinkedIn Alignable, and all major platforms. At Wondra Spencer, I do see my listeners, so definitely. Thanks for keeping up the time to be with me today and also until next time. Protect your energy, honor your growth and keep driving forward. I will have other podcasts that's coming up, so until next time, thank you.